You DO have knowledge to share together with your daughter-in-law, and when she beseeches you for help, maybe it is best to supply it!
You can – on the very least – inform her how sorry you might be that she is dealing with this, remind her to do her perfect to take excellent care of herself and to maintain the kids protected, and supply her concepts and assets the place SHE can get assist.
She could use blame and disgrace as a approach to share her ache with you, however you don’t want to simply accept accountability in your son’s relapses.
Don’t proceed to supply recommendation to your son. Solely supply assist if it helps his restoration.
Don’t ask your daughter-in-law to cease contacting you. Let her know that her and the boys’ security and well-being are extraordinarily vital to you.
I extremely advocate a “family and friends” help group (like Al-anon) for all of you.
I additionally hope you’ll all learn the immensely useful e book: “Addict within the Home (A No-Nonsense Household Information By way of Dependancy and Restoration),” by Robin Barnett (2016, New Harbinger).
Pricey Amy: I had my final drink on March 17, 1981 and had give up medication 5 years prior.
The following years have been spent with restoration, discovering and treating the psychological well being points, and hours of conferences and repair.